Fear is most people’s nemesis. We’re afraid to lose, to fail, to get hurt or to start again. We’re afraid to frustrate loved ones, to be laughed at by friends, to not gain everyone’s approval.
Fear is in not knowing. Take for example a newbie investor. He’s unsure how the market is going to perform, where to invest his money, or to invest at all. He fears he’s gonna make the wrong choices, lose his money and fail.
What could this person do? Study. Research. Know everything there is to know. When you learn, you equip yourself, and then you can make informed decisions. What if the decision was wrong? The important thing is you did what you know was right at that particular time with all the information you have. If you fail, then take the lesson with you. Successful people pursue learning. It feeds their appetite.
Fear is a control issue. This is when a person knows he doesn’t have a hand or power over things. Paranoia exhibits this fear- a condition where one is obsessed with the belief that bad things are going to happen and that everybody is out there to get him. He becomes helpless, paralyzed, panicky, worrisome.This is not a pleasant and healthy state to be in and there’s no easy cure but two ways can help: To trust and to let go.
First, It all boils down to your belief system. when you learn to trust people and trust a Higher Being, your perspective change. To worry and to focus on things you can’t control just doesn’t make sense. It’s a waste of your time and energy, two resources that you have a limited supply of. To shift your focus on things you can control is more sensible and a more productive way to live your life. Delegate. Do what you do best, and leave the rest to experts. You ask for help, you collaborate or team up with the someone. You can even team up with God.
To let go on the other hand demands acceptance- the courage to embrace the truth. There are things that are bound to happen. You can’t do anything about it. Even if you can the efforts would be futile. Death, taxes, and change are on top of the list. You can’t avoid death. You can avoid taxes but with disastrous consequences. You can resist change but that will disrupt your growth. See, it’s pointless to argue with these truths much more prevent it from taking place.
Lastly, fear is refusing to take responsibility for your own happiness. When you dread rejection or demand affection you are bound to fail. The former will immobilize you, the latter will frustrate you. Don’t avoid the chances of getting turned down. Successful people have had a fair share of it. There’s Colonel Sanders, Oprah Winfrey, and Sylvester Stallone to name a few. On the other hand, if you look forward to pleasing everybody- you will end up living up to their expectations and not yours. Remind me, who’s life is this again? Yours right?
Fear has many facets and all of it are not good for you. Of course, there’s a healthy kind of fear and it’s a topic worthy of discussion on a separate occasion. For now, think about where your fear stems from, then deal with the root cause. Work on what you can. Everything else is not meant to be dealt with by you. Wave the white flag if you must. Help will certainly come.
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