There’s no need for love to be profound. It is what it is even in the mundane of things.
Words are cheap. It’s easy to say I love yous’ and not really stand by every word you express. It’s easy to feel love for other people especially when they’re miles away and you don’t need to put up with their daily dramas and annoyances. So I believe, we love best when we do so even if,
even when it’s hard,
even when it takes up your time, your energy and your resources.
So, are we really ready for this? Do we have the strength of will to carry on?
Love is a verb. It’s a call to action. The most beautiful of roses have thorns. So it is with love- the sweetest of it requires the greatest sacrifice. A call for a noble deed or dying for a friend may be uncommon these days, but that call exists even in the simplest of circumstances:
-to lose sleep for a loved one who needs to talk his heart out through the night
-to save a sandwich for a coworker who missed lunch because of deadlines
-to trash your well-laid plans for the day and drop by to check on a friend
-to laugh at your dad’s joke no matter how silly it is ‘coz you’re happy that he is
-to remember someone’s need in prayer, even if you have much of your own
-to put up with a kids tantrum, knowing he’s just scared and maybe needs attention as grown-ups still do
There are a lot of different ways to act on love, but often times we neglect these opportunities because we’re so focused on ourselves and our needs. So we end up loving in our own terms. Conditional. But maybe if we give it a little more effort, and speak the kind of language the other person has, we can brighten someone else’s day and there’ll be one less lonely or sad person in the world. One person at a time. One effort at a time. That wouldn’t be so overwhelming.
If a person feels loved when somebody listens to his stories- lend an ear. If a person feels loved when she gets an encouragement- say something. If a person feels loved by receiving some help- extend a hand. There’s no need for love to be profound. It is what it is even in the mundane of things.
And for us who expects love in a big way- like a strong wind that sweeps us off our feet, my challenge is this: Wake up, and see love in the ordinary. A kind smile. A sunny day, even a rainy one. A warm home-cooked meal. A hand to hold. A glimpse of nature. A gentle word.
Love is everywhere and it is in you too. Don’t just show up to receive it. Show up to give it. Your own little way makes it special, makes it count. A friend, a husband, wife, a father, a son, a mom a daughter, a colleague, a stranger, we are no different from one another. Everybody needs love. And everybody is capable of giving it. Be it simple or grand- act on it, and on the flipside, learn to recognize it too.