“In the bigger world, we all have roles to fill. Fulfill what is yours and be excellent about it. There’s room for everyone in the Father’s Kingdom”. #sundaewrites
Have you ever felt frustrated because somebody else is better than you? Mad because you don’t have what they have or maybe because they’re already doing the things you could have been doing, but never really started?
Well, you’re not alone. In the past, I have beaten myself up about frustrations supposedly caused by people around me. Yes, I blamed everyone else but myself. But the more I look deeper into what I’m going through, the more I figured, it’s my fault and no one else’s.
Here’s the deal. Whenever you feel the green monster creeping in, you can either do one or a few of these things.
Avoid it. Facebook is a great platform. It allows people to make connections and gives us a window for self-expression. The latter, sometimes create a negative impact on most of us. In my case, seeing other people’s post actually got me jealous at times in the past. You read it right. It’s not actually their fault, it’s mine. You know, we have to take responsibility for what we feel. So what did I do? I unfollowed most. (If you’re one of those, I’m sorry, it’s not really personal). But you see, I recognized my flaw and I took an action to protect my heart. I didn’t want to carry the heavy baggage anymore. The more you allow these little things to build up, they actually get heavier over time.
Celebrate other people’s success. We envy and hate people because we want what they have. Let’s be honest. We only see the tip of the iceberg, and we don’t know what successful people had to go through just to get to where they are. Just think about one person you know who finally launched a business or have drawn a large clientele. Or just think about Mozart or Da Vinci. Imagine the hours, the late nights, the effort, discipline, failures, and frustrations they had to endure and overcome to be where they are now. Are you willing to put in the same effort, and the same work? Next time you feel envious, ask yourself that. Truly successful people put in a lot of hard work to accomplish what they set their mind and heart on. It didn’t just happen overnight. So we ought to applaud them, be inspired by them and not hate them.
Nurture your own success. Admit that you can’t be everyone to anyone, but you can be someone. In your own unique way, you can bless the world. Each of us has his own gifts. Our responsibility is to hone this gift and be excellent at it. You know in a typical office, not everyone is a receptionist. Not everyone is an accountant, an engineer, a sales executive, or a CEO. Everybody gets to be one, and everyone has a part to play. For a company to succeed, the team should be ironclad. No weak link. And everyone should turn up to do the job, else somebody will have to fill in two roles and that may be ineffective in the long run.
My point is, in the bigger world, we all have roles to fill. Each of us has been equipped to do what we’re supposed to do. We are here to complement each other not envy one another. It doesn’t matter what work you do, what matters is you do it the best you could. How? Imagine you’re not just putting one brick on top of the other. See the bigger picture, and recognize that you’re actually building a church.
Go and bless the world!