Have you ever started a day with disappointments? You’ve perfectly planned out everything, moving every possible obstacle out of the way just so you can guarantee a smooth-sailing journey towards accomplishing your goal, then it happened. You arrived one hour late, you got the wrong schedule, and just when you’re trying to save yourself from having a bad day, you drive 16 miles to a rescue venue and then, boom! You can’t find a parking spot. So you turn your car around and drive home for another 20 miles.
You feel like a total failure, a pathetic loser. You sink deep into frustration, then to anger, and then finally to hopelessness. At this point, all the negative thoughts parade in your brain like a bunch of cheering squad, clapping, jumping and shouting “hurray” knowing they have conquered your day.
I know, it’s exhausting. But hey, enough already. We can’t wallow in these feelings for the rest of the day, worse for the rest of the year. So granted things started off wrong, let’s just make good of whatever is left.
Blow off some steam. Get some fresh air. Instead of heading back to your place with a grumpy face, why not stop over somewhere just to take your mind off from what just happened. See something different, hear something different, that way you direct your focus to something nice, beautiful, relaxing or even peaceful. I know nature is the best remedy, and so is simply saying hello (and mean it) to people you pass by.
Someone wise told me if you can’t drive negative thoughts away from camping in your brain and make bonfires, replace them. How? Simply plant new thoughts. And that’s exactly what you can do when you look around. You will see something good. When you quite all the noise, you will hear something good.
Sometimes, our brains can be devious. They can trick us in many different ways, but if it’s already attacking the better part of you, fight back. That’s what will power is for. You resolve to find what’s good, what’s working and slowly you beckon gratefulness back.
Get some perspective. As what Tuesdays with Morrie once taught me, “Don’t let go too soon, but don’t hang on too long”. Even successful investors know when to cut losses, so we should too. Well, each case is unique, so you’ll get that wisdom from a lifelong experience. But I believe, that if you seek for answers deep down, you will know when it’s the right time to let go.
For a petty experience like the one I had today, I just thought of writing about it. It didn’t seem petty at first because I felt a thousand needles poking into my brain and my heart. Oh how I love my heart, so I’m guarding it with a thousand more soldiers so the enemy can’t invade.
Talking about it now gives me clarity. Maybe you can try it too. It’s true what they say that when you take a problem or an issue out and put it on a table, you can see it for what it is. Isolate it and you’ll know it’s completely unattached to you. Break the connection. You were never the problem. You just made up your mind that you were.
Selecta had it right when it flashed that message on the tv screen not so long ago. Love yourself. Do that, and you’ll be happier.